What’s the one thing that you can do to make sure that you get the time that you want with your kids?
And the answer is, you’ve got to be proactive and you’ve got to be aggressive.
Of all the things that happen in a Tampa divorce, if you’re a guy and you want to make sure that you maximize your time with your kids, you’ve got to be aggressive. And here’s why.
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Remember that there is a bias in the system, and the bias is that women are the ones who are supposed to have the kids most of the time.
Yes, we’ve become more progressive as a society and there are some judges who are also more progressive and think 50/50 parenting plans make the most sense.
But by and large, most of them are more old school and you’ve got to recognize that the bias is there.
And you also have to recognize that there’s probably a good chance that during the intact marriage, your wife did more of the kid stuff or maybe pitched in more. And that may very well have been because you were working a lot of hours, but you’ve got to recognize that’s the case.
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So, what do you do now that you want to maximize your time with your kids?
Maybe you want 50/50 time sharing, or maybe you want 40/60, or whatever the case may be. And right off the bat, your wife’s thinking there’s no way you can handle that — and you know that the judge might be biased. So, be aggressive. Here’s what you do.
Remember that a divorce doesn’t have to happen tomorrow. You can start the process and this thing could last six months, nine months, a year, a year and a half. And while you probably don’t want it to drag out that long, recognize that this gives you some time to build new facts.
And so, if you think that you’re capable of having a 50/50 time sharing and handling all the responsibilities, be aggressive and show the court that you can do that by actually doing it.
Don’t expect the court to go ahead and just give you the time and then all of a sudden you’re going to show it later. Start doing it now.
So, if you separate, let your wife know that you’re ready to go to this kid event, that kid event. You’re ready to take them 50% of the time. Hell, you’ll take ’em 60% of the time if she’ll let you.
And if you guys have a disagreement on that and she doesn’t want you to have the kids as much as you want, then keep asking. Every day if you need to. Be persistent; do it in writing.
But at the end of the day, you can make a difference by what you do today, regardless of what has historically happened. What’s in the past is in the past.
If you’ve really been a true equal parenting parent in the past, awesome. Make sure you gather up that evidence so you can show it — because historically, some spouses look back at things in the past and each has a different version or a different recollection of what happened.
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Regardless of the past, you can still control the future by being proactive, being aggressive.
If you truly want to see your kids 50% of the time, for example, then have your kids 50% of the time until this is over. Take on 70% of the responsibilities until this is over. Ask to have the kids 60% or 70% of the time until this is over, because you can build this case.
You can do it!
If you need help fighting the possibility of parenting alienation in men’s divorce, contact Denmon Pearlman’s Tampa mens divorce lawyers for a free, no-obligation consultation. Call 1-888-992-3386 today. We have offices in Tampa, St. Petersburg, New Port Richey, and Bradenton.